December 27, 2012
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The SAHM rant.
Yes, and the battle rages on..the difference between Stay at home Mom's and working Mom's. Yes, I am Stay at home BUT I am NOT your maid nor am I your short order cook. I grew up in a household where my Mom was stay at home even after I went back to school and ya know, it was a nice luxary to have and not everyone can afford it. I love people who say 'If I was stay at home I'd be cooking three meals a day." Really, lets be real here..I again grew up in a home where my Mom was stay at home and hey, we had cereal for breakfast during the week but on the weekends and if we were sick we would get breakfast made and we did order out from time to time because well, my Mom wasn't the best cook but she did her best. There was even one year where my Mom made a turkey for Thanksgiving and we ALL got sick from it..Yep, all of us throwing up as a family because the turkey wasn't fully cooked. Even though at the time it wasn't fun looking back on it the time the entire family got sick from a badly cooked turkey is a fond memory.
I don't think there's one standard a woman should be held to just because she is stay at home and you are not. You did make the choice to not stay at home..thats great but I did and as I said to my husband after I had my daughter 'I'm a stay at home Mom and not a maid'..which is very true. I do expect people to pick up after themselves and even to put the stuff into the dishwasher themselves. If you are closer to the scissors or the hammer and you aren't sick..well then, you can get it yourself! No, I am not full on Suzy Homemaker and infact, I hate HATE the term homemaker that completely takes us back to the 1950s..Why can't anyone come up with a better term and half the people I do know can't understand the whole SAHM thing either..Can we have a better term for what I do? Seriously..
In general, why do we have to be so judgemental of other people's lives and even parenting styles? If anything women who are Mothers tend to be the worst and most judgemental both online and on the internet..Is that really needed? Kids are kids and each one of them needs to be handled differently. Each one of our families operates differently as well..You don't have to understand why the household works that way just that they well do... I sometimes find it hard to believe how parents act towards other parents and at times I think it boils down to jealousy to a certain extent...Anyways, back to the true point of this blog..
Neither parent is 'better' then the other- we are adults and make the best choices for our kids..Just because I have a little bit more time on my hands then you do a day and have time to form and maintain an idenity outside of my child and my husband doesn't mean I should feel bad about it. The parent who decides to work shouldn't feel bad about working and home life sometimes being insane and having no time for themselves..and no, just because I am stay at home I will not take care of your issues at the drop of the dime just because I am home...Again, I am a stay at home Mom and not a maid. I don't judge you and you don't judge me..that simple..Every parent, every child and every household works differently..that simple accept the fact that not every household works the same as yours. I'm also pretty certain that every parent has made a mistake here or there..or maybe even numerous mistakes at that. Some of us though to show our mistakes and lessons learned from the mistakes. In short, I don't care how you parent or how you decide to parent..A stay at home parent vs a working one is really no contest as long as your child(ren) are happy and adjusted..what difference does it really make at the end of the day?
