June 2, 2013

  • What gives?

      Okay, so we all know parenting is hard and sometimes you have to make your best judgement but my question here today is..What gives any parent or even an adult for that matter to question your parenting choices? This is nothing new and I think every parent goes through this- I know my Mom wrestled with this a lot especially with other Mother's. Sure, everyone will LOVE to give you input and how to handle your own child but at the end of the day it is your child. I may hand out advice to a parent whose looking for it(if its not asked for its rude by the way) but I also make sure I tell them to use their best judgement and their own instincts when dealing with the situation. Thats really what it comes down to at the end of the day anyways..How the parents make the judgements and not you. Mind you, its also especially rude and outta line when a non-parent tells you how to run your household. I think its cute when single/unmarried women even men play the 'if I was a parent card'..Seriously, this is sarcasm here...but you are talking about an pretend child and playing the what 'if' game. Once upon a time, I had a nice glossy view of parenthood back when we would only get our oldest for a few weekends here and there and I didn't have our youngest. Yeah, that was pretty easy compared to actually giving birth to the kid. Parenting gets messy and it does involved a lot of poop(literally and not so literally) that you kinda don't figure out is there until you have your child..

     

     Anyways, we as parents need to well, do our job as we see fit. I think in general we as Mother's as programmed to feel guilt over certain things even if we shouldn't feel guilty about them. Its hard enough to deal with those things without another Mother or even non-Mother coming down on you for everything little thing. Notice: I am saying Mothers a lot here because in my experience its only the women who cross that line into getting the middle finger because they want to just butt in or look down on you because you don't do things they way they do..Dad's on the other hand really don't do that. I've never met a Father who acted like certain women do. As a Mother you have your own standards and your own rules to live by..Now, I've gotten slack for not volunteering at my daugthers school and you know what? I'm taking the steps my Mom took which was she never took part in the school stuff because she didn't want to deal with other Mother's who would judge and point a finger at her and because well, what kid wants their child at school with them? I like to give her that space at school to explore without me..She needs it and I can't always be around to protect her but she does know she can talk to me about stuff that goes on at school.

     

     Parents do know their own children and know how to make the choices that are best for them..Sometimes, I think women just need to close their mouths more when it comes down to things and a lot of times when women open up their mouths its partly out of jealousy or partly out of lack of understanding of a certain situation. The whole point of parenting is to kind of adopt your own way..Sure, you'll make mistakes but thats part of the process...Urgh, and I really love those who don't show their mistakes..As I said in another blog...We all have poop somewhere and I'm sure it stinks. If you don't point out mine than I won't point out yours. No one is perfect and everyone will mess up..deal..thats just how life is. Also, never assume..that gets on my nerves as well..even if you think you know everything about something I highly bet you don't. If anything Mother to Mother and women to women sometimes end up acting like children to each other and bullies to each other..So what? We all do things differently..thats the point of parenting. If you don't like it..that doesn't mean you have to say it and myself as a Mother..Well, I live up to MY standards as a Mother not YOUR standards as a Mother. In short, women be nicer to each other be nicer to Mother to Mother. We all know this job is hard at times and does suck at times so pratice the compassion that you try to teach your kids.

     

    monkeymouth