June 25, 2013

  • Riddle me this...

     Okay, so last night I rented "Mean Girls". Yeah, I know I just had an urge to watch it and didn't want to bother anyone else with my movie choice so I put it on once everyone else had fallen asleep. Mind you, this is one of the most recent movies that showcase the women pecking order. I went searching for other movies and I found a laundry list of not just movies but also books on how to survive the female pecking order and how to help your teen survive the female 'girl world'. I found these interesting since I know I've had my fair share of "Mean Girls" over the years and I know my oldest has mentioned lately having to deal with girls who are just plain and out right mean.

     So, this got me to thinking more so on if guys have a pecking order. Do you know what I found? One paragraph on how men behave with each other in a social setting and compared to what's out there when it comes down to women- its laughable..it really is. Even thinking back into my own life and the fact that most of my friends are males it makes sense really. I know of two circumstances where two guys don't get along with one guy so, do you know what they do? They don't bad mouth the guy behind his back, they don't create drama with the rest of the group, they don't become evil dictators out to make the one outcast feel like an outcast...Nope, they just don't talk to guy on a one on one basis. If the person is around they behave accordingly. I've even seen two guy friends get into a fist fight and within the same day buy each other a beer and go on with life with no grudges or anything. In fact, in my search to find out if men have cliques I ended up finding a cocktail page for guys. Most of the stuff I found was for Father's/Husband's and giving them tips on how to help their daughters/wives deal with the "Mean Girls" of the world. I must say, it really was educational to go looking through whats online and how all the hate seems be between girl vs girl not guy vs guy.

    I guess I'm just wondering if any guy out there- maybe my Dad or my Father in law or any number of my male friends could tell me if its true or false that guys don't have cliques and pecking orders. I found one rather funny answer on Yahoo answers as to why dudes don't have cliques- I admit it made me giggle but then again most of what I found on the male 'clique' was funny compared to the drama and psychological pain women can cause especially to each other. One paragraph is available online discussing male social patterns but there's books upon books discussing girls and 'survival' tips too..Urgh, its gross and makes me ashamed to be a woman. If any guy does though have experience with a male clique..please, let me know..I'm seriously curious. The only guy clique movie I can even think of is "Daddy Daycare" where the one boss is giving them a hard time for doing a Mommy's job then they remind him that they are paying their bills since they are watching his child..Anyways, please enlighten me if you as a guy believe there is such thing as a male clique according to my own experiences(hanging out with guys) and from what I've seen online it in fact, is a thing of myth.