Okay, so since time forgot I swear women have issues with each other and tend to jump down each others throats for no apperent reason..with Mother's Day coming up I figured this is a valid blog. Mind you, I USED to be a part of many Mommy groups but I stopped..Why? Because believe it or not Mother's are horribly judemental to each other both online and on the internet if not worse on the internet in my experience....Why? I don't get it..is it hormones? Jealousy? Wanting everyone to run things the way you do? I seriously don't get it..I've ran into numerous Mother's over the years both in real life and online who think they know they best BUT I am the one around my child all the time. You may be here once a week hanging out at the park but you aren't the one dealing the way I am...Is it really that hard to just keep your mouth shut ladies?

I'm also bringing this up because I watched an episode of "Malcolm in the middle" recently..season two called "New neighbors" where basically, they get new neighbors and they seem refined but long story short, the two Mom's end up fighting and the two Dad's are getting along famously and end up having to keep their friendship secret because of the two women..turns out the one Mom giving Malcolm's Mom crap was cheating on her husband with the landscaper...Clearly this woman had something to hide to instead of putting her crap out there she hid it and attacked the other woman. My theory in general is that women tend to hide their crap- those who aren't perfect and show their cracks tend to get attack the most by other women because they let their crap hang out while those trying to hide things..well, attack so that their secrets don't get out..

Is it really that hard to understand that being mean to each other doesn't do our gender any good whatsoever? Maybe to some it is..I let my cracks show from time to time but I expect to not have people jumping my throat for every choice I make or don't make..If you don't pay ANY of my bills, never pooped in my toliet or had a meal in my house..You have no right to jump down my throat. I think that thought goes for everyone though..Us women folk need to stop being so hard on each other.. In the past I have gone up to strange women at the mall and asked where they got their clothes..its not beyond me..Being catty to each other is childish especially when you are Mommies yourself..In honor of Mother's Day how about we as women actually make an effort to not be catty towards each other. We should stick together afterall since men don't have the whole period issue, childbirth experiences and well, a whole lotta other stuff. Every woman/mother has cracks and quirks..just because you don't let yours show as easily doesn't mean you should attack those who do openly show their quirks. How about we has women get along for once?

So, we have yet another school trying something 'new'..Read about it here: http://gma.yahoo.com/blogs/abc-blogs/elementary-school-cafeteria-goes-vegetarian-191450488.html 

Basically, the schools cafe only serves vegetarian meals..What really rubs me the wrong way though is that in the article it say that the school says "It's about living a healthy lifestyle and educating students on what options are out there." Okay, so you want to teach these kids about options but there is no meat being served in the cafe..How is this teaching options again?? Did I miss something? Teaching options would be giving options including meat and not including meat. The article also states in there.."It's about living a healthy lifestyle and educating students on what options are out there." Again, meat is bad and unhealthy BUT they want to put options out there...what options are they getting when you are only giving them meatless from the cafe if a kid wants a hot meal. How is this NOT pushing propaganda onto young elementary school kids again? You want to teach them about options but the only option to get meat is to bring a bag lunch. I don't know about anyone else's kid but my child gets a hot meal for lunch when she is home so naturally we let have a warm lunch at school and her school gives her numerous options on her lunch..She can pick her own adventure.

These are very young kids in elementary school and can be influenced very easily- if you are teaching them that a healthy lifestyle doesn't include meat then whose to say the child won't throw a fit because Mom makes meatloaf one night and its unhealthy. I have a girlfriend whose vegan and she does still give her daughter meat options if she wants them...At that young age EVERYTHING should be offered. I DO NOT agree with denying kids food. They need sometimes junk..I know I ate junk food growing up and I turned out fine but I was also pushed outside to play and in dance. One time I had to go to a prep class over the summer and you know how my Mom bribed me into it? Why yes..I got Mcdonalds or Burger King everyday after the class. I went to the prep class three days a week so three days a week over summer I was having junk food. My Mom also got me to go to the dentist by promising me Mcdonalds once I was done. Back in the day you could give your kids junk food and not be scolded..back in the day you could easily get meat and soda in most school cafe's as well..What has the world come to as of late?

Seriously, you are a school and I am a parent- you teach and I will parent..thats really what it comes down to. Way too many schools are crossing the line into parenting vs teaching or pushing their own views onto kids vs teaching..How about you teach and I will handle the rest..Maybe if we got back to simply teaching at school vs trying to push ideals onto kids our education system would actually shape up and we wouldn't have kids falling through the cracks..You stay on your side of the line and I'll stay on my side of the line.

Okay, so pictured is my dear Oliver who we got as kitten- he only lived about two weeks. Below in one of the last pictures of me with my best buddy Walnuts who passed away last night. I know life isn't fair but this is beyond not fair. Everytime I have brought a kitten into my loving home..they die and they don't make it until their one year birthday. Oliver I hardly even got a chance to know but Walnuts was my buddy and I had almost eight months to spend with him and it hurts..The fall of both of them hurts and I know my husband is desperate to make it better by finding a good cat whose at least two years of age that we can take in but seriously, it won't be the same. The hubby and I decided numerous years ago to not have any more kids so bringing up a kitten was the next best thing and apperently that can't even be done right because they keep dying on me. Thank my lucky stars though that neither of my older cats have caught(thus far) what the other kittens have had but yet again..I am now keeping an eye on both my other cats to make sure they are fine.

I'm normally never negitive but seriously, if I am some guardian angel to kittens..this isn't funny anymore. Yes, I have given two little kittens a lot of love up until they died but seriously, I don't want the job of being a kitten guardian angel. My husband has called me Snow White since we first stated dating because well, cats, dogs, kids..all follow me around and ya know that whole thing about being pure of heart and animals and kids loving you..yeah, you get the point...Anyways, my first reaction to Walnuts passing is I want my kitten back. I still do..I figured he had an infection of some sort and it could fixed..nope, guess I was wrong.

I have not had a tantrum in years and I had one last night and it involved cleaning. I cleaned every spot of that laundry room, disinfected EVERYTHING and it didn't make it better. My husband keeps trying to make it better and it can't be made better..not right now. I was willing to try again after Oliver figuring there was no way it could happen again and hey look, it happened again. This is beyond not fair- this is cruel and sorry to offend anyone who 'believes in a higher power' but seriously, if there is a higher power they are cruel. I may eventually end up taking in another cat but it won't be another kitten..apperently, there's something wrong with me taking in a kitten and it can't be done.

In short, life isn't not just fair- its cruel..Its already bad enough my daughter now believes everytime you take an animal to the doctor they don't come home since we had to take William to animal hosptial(and he didn't come home) well, no animal that has gone to the animal hospital has come home..she was already saying that Walnuts wasn't coming home when we were both up waiting for him to come and he never did..So yes, ontop of worrying about my other animals and everything else I know this kid is going to have this thought in her mind for possibly the rest of the her life that whenever you take an animal to the doctor they don't come home. Yep, yep..life is unfair but this far beyond unfair..its cruel..

Yes, this is ranting but hey, it has to happen..oh and now everyone else is lying down and napping but me..I'll sleep eventually but I do have to order dinner and at least get the little one up before she stays up al night. I would love to just go and crash like everyone else but if then no one will get dinner and everyone will be up all night- I'm always the responsible one in one way or another..okay, so end of vent..

Here we go again with another school that did something completely stupid. I mean the week isn't complete until there's a story about something a school did..Well, here is this weeks story: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2013/04/04/worker-suspended-after-mass-students-are-denied-lunch-because-were-behind-in/?fb_action_ids=10151664802293268&fb_action_types=og.likes&fb_source=aggregation&fb_aggregation_id=288381481237582

Okay, now my daughter uses the credit to get her school meals and we tend to keep up on making sure she's on running low on funds but still things happen and I know our system it takes up to 48 hours for the credits to hit the account- one time we ended up cutting it really close but the account got filled just in time for her to not go hungry.

Obviously, the lunch people didn't follow protocall but why does it even have to be protocall? I mean, its common sense if you ask me. Most people I know get very grouchy when they don't get food..my husband included. One year we went out to eat for Valentine's day we picked out a resturant and well, when we got there we found out the wait was something like three hours. Of course, we were both hungry and hey, look! We found another resturant in the same area with no wait time and we even got to sit outside on the patio and as an added bonus the food was wonderful and it was a new place that we had never been to before..and of course, yes earlier in the day the hubby was rather hungry and he was getting kinda snippy at me so we pushed up our dinner date. Anyways, I've gotten off subject kind of..

Doesn't everyone know that people don't function that well without food? Hasn't anyone ever handled a very hungry kid? Its common sense and I'm glad that at least the people who made these kids toss out their lunch got fired and the school acted quickly. A lot of these stories I read about the school just well, takes a wrong decision and makes it worse in the long run by not acting quickly. Also, why didn't any of the teachers show up and handle the kids when they started crying? I know in my daughters school there's always a teacher or two in the lunch room with the kids..someone should have caught on to what was going on sooner rather than later and why weren't the cooks in the kitchen at least notified of these policies. I know when I worked food service we had certain policies just hanging up nearby incase you forgot. Oh well, at least in this case the school has done the right thing in my mind and hopefully the new workers will be educated on how things should work and protocall.

I wonder what school is going to mess up this upcoming school week- I guess we'll have to wait and find out.

So, for the time being this little tree is cute. I got some great picture of myself and my daughter posing on it BUT monsoon is coming up. In short, that means high winds and unpredictable heat and sometimes even hail. Mind you, this tree does NOT belong in Arizona in the first place. We've been lucky that when the HOA planted it that all it kinda did was start to lean in the storms but well, there's a new storm season coming. Most don't understand that our monsoons are no laughing matter. Its kind of like a tornado(our winds reach speeds of tornados sometimes) with hail and rain and dust and sometimes mud. After a long talk outside about this tree- well, I am worried with the upcoming storm season if they don't take this tree away.

 This tree it pointed directly at our house. Yes, although the chances are minor that it may come flying straight through our home it is still a worry since our storms are unpredictable. Most likely, yes it will end up falling down and killing the overhang at the park but since our kitchen and living area downstairs(where we all spend the most time at) is directly facing this park..its a worry. Once upon a time, the hubby and I lived on a golf course..one monsoon took out and de-rooted a 30 year old year tree on the golf course...thats how bad our storms can get and every year we get about two storms which are pretty bad. Now, with that being said..look back at the picture. Yep, I really don't want a tree flying through my house. Yes, we have home owners insurance but its still pretty scary to even think of that possiblity with all of us in the house and all of the animals we have here. I would like to think that something that could be avoided would well, be avoided especially when our HOA is behind the planting of the trees at this park.

The hubby is going to call the HOA and try to get them to do something about it without putting up a fight. We've seen how much money they have(its public information) and they can easily fix it. In fact, the landscapers were just here today cleaning up the park and they again, didn't touch it. We know they do have the money to fix it. They easily could fix it- not only are they putting us in danger but also since our storms tend to be unpredictable whose to say this tree won't get picked up and hit another house. A lot of people in this neighborhood have kids and I would hate for another family to get injuried by a tree that gets moved during a monsoon and moreso there's a ton of people on our street who are renters. I would hate to think what would happen if renters have their stuff ruined and get stuck on the street because of a broken roof from a tree that well, could have been taken out for the communities safety.

Needless to say, now I'm annoyed that its a holiday weekend and nothing can be done until Monday. I really hope they do something because I really see the chance that this tree could cause a ton of damage.

In one of my numerous groups it started being discussed on how love is sometimes work. I don't believe love should be work- those who have to work at it probably aren't with the right person if you ask me. If you want to keep your relationship going strong it shouldn't be 'work'. In fact, work is a horrible word to use in general..Let me explain.

Most people don't like their jobs..Well, there may be a select few who like their jobs but show me one person who likes their job and I'll show you ten people who hate their jobs and only go to work because they have to go not because they want to go. Relationships shouldn't be a have to thing- you should WANT to take care of that special person in your life. It should be natural and you shouldn't have to fight with the other person to get them to spend time with you and to do things for you. Your special person should want to do things for you at the end of day..let me tell you a little story..

Since roughly October 18th, 2003(the day I moved in with my now husband) I bring him his first cup of coffee in the morning. If he's up before me he'll bring me my first cup of coffee or even make me a waffle...Mind you, I've missed a few days over the years of bringing him his morning coffee mostly because I was in the hospital but I make a point to bring him his first cup in the morning even if I'm mad at him. I know I'm not required to do so but I want to bring him his first cup of coffee in the morning. I know he likes the fact that I bring him his first cup in the morning. He's told me numerous times he apperciates it. Its just a little gesture I like to make to my husband every morning..its kind of 'our thing'..Most couples who last a very long time have their little thing that others find cute and sometimes a bit annoying..I guess the coffee is 'our thing'.

Bottom line- make sure you want to make the person in life happy. It should be something you want to do and you shouldn't have to work at it..Its the little things and sometimes when you've been with someone for an extended amount of time..well, those little things can be very important. Thats my rant for today..

Yes, I did a blog on the rest of the "Twilight Saga" and seeing as how I watched "Breaking dawn part one" over the little one's winter break and than watched "Breaking dawn part two" last night..Well, guess what? You get the last "Twilight" ranting..

Okay, Part one moved very slowly until she got pregnant..Now, her being stubborn on keeping the baby..that I can understand because I've known more than a few women who were high risk and or even told to not keep the baby and still did and lived to tell about it. Basically, I found this movie a whole lotta nothing other than some weird looks between Jacob and Edward..oh and that one part where Edward brings Jacob as a surprise and the two of them are pretty much making out when Bella is newly married..awkward! I mean seriously, who does that? Let me bring you your ex on our wedding day and then leave you alone with him..It just seems very odd to me..I don't get it.

Part two left me with some questions though and some ranting as well..I'm curious..where do the Cullens get all that money from? I mean at one point in the movie Bella is shoving piles and piles of money into a backpack for her daughter 'incase'..Okay, so where are they getting this money? I'm seriously curious..is there a money tree in Forks that I should know of and if there is..can you show me EXACTLY where it is?  Oh and yes, they can get these pretty houses too..seriously, where do they get the money? Also, why is it that Bella suddenly forgets how to act human once she's turned? Yes, you gained all these lovely powers but you were human for what....16 years and yet you suddenly forget how to be or even behave human..I find that hard to believe. 

Now, I did mention that I found it creepy that Jacob(her ex basically) ends up with Bella's daughter. I find that creepy..even watching the movie I found it creepy. If I any of my ex's had their eyes on any one of my daughters...well, my ex wouldn't make it. Bella should have hurt him more than she did in the first place..I was happy that she beat him up a bit but seriously, she stopped too soon and become accepting way too soon. If I was in her spot there would be accepting and you would have to get out.

I also learned tha the vampire god is pretty much a big jerk and likes to assume A LOT. Someone comes to him and says 'hey, I saw this!' and he immedately jumps to the whole conclusion of 'its a crime!' before even discussing anything..He is basically your average gossip queen taking everything for face value and not even allowing a discussion to go on...yet, sooo many follow this little school girl blindly..Yes, I did just call him a school girl because through out all the movies thats basically how he is painted. I bet I could tell this guy that the sky is going to turn purple on the 15th and he'd believe me!

Of course, there's a happy ending BUT again..Okay, Bella's daughter ends up with Jacob whose werewolf and they introduce someone who is half vamp/half human as well in the end and they turned someone so that they wouldn't be alone..My thought is..okay, the drama/school girl vamp was worried about a half vamp/half human half breed..Lets say Bella's daughter has a kid with Jacob...and lets say she turns Jacob..In short, they would have a bunch of werewolf/vampire/humans roaming(assuming her daughter has kids with Jacob) around that no one has ever come into contact with and may not know what they would be capable of doing...wouldn't that cause a whole different war of a new set of offspring that no one understood? If anything it would be more of a war because vampires aren't suppose to be friends with the werewolves..let alone have kids with them..just food for thought..

I think the only merit I can see here is that this series does buy into the whole 'forever' romantic idea..Everyone wants to be able to be with their loved one forever and watch their children grow up and progress forever and be a happy family forever..I think everyone wants that and yes, I admit the best part of all the movies for me at least has been the soundtracks..I know soo many people both grown and not grown who love this saga and I think it has a lot to do with the 'forever' bottom line in there..at least thats what I can figure when it comes to its appeal..Anyways, there will be no more 'Twilight" blogs..I promise.

  I know I have ranted about this before but hey, I saw this picture on my newsfeed this morning and instead of ranting on the friends picture I decided to take it to a blog and not start a whole huge debate. Now, in the past I have discussed about how a woman who doesn't curves isn't a 'real' women basically saying that any woman that looks like me is fake..Yep, yep..I am a pretend woman...now, I see this..

Okay, now this is EVERYTHING that is wrong with today's idea of thinking..not only it is dissing women who don't have curves but its also dissing men who don't want a woman with curves..So, by this meme alone I can assume that I married a dog which is laughable. People wonder why so many youngins and even 20 somethings have body imagine issues..its because of THIS type of stuff being shoved into our faces. We now are not only hating the skinny body type but we are also hating upon those who do not want the curvy type of women. Really? We all have our own idea of what is sexy and what is not..there is no need to 'define' one thing or another..Someone can see one person and say they are ugly but the person next to them can see the one person as the best thing since sliced bread. When does the judging end?

Personally, I'm raising two daughters and I know the body issues I had in my 20s..most of them were because I didn't have big boobs and was a 'twig' or a 'bean pole' and because people assumed I never ate because I was skinny..Long story short, I don't want my girls to worry about their bodies like I did and simply enjoy what they have..As long as you are healthy..is there a really a point of dissing others? We need to accept the fact that people have different ideas of what is sexy and different idea's of what is beauty. No one body type rules them all and I do believe the sappy idea that there is someone out there for everyone..Seriously, stop dissing each other and accept that different people find different things attractive.

So, since I said yesterday that my husband once took in a pigeon I figured I should probably tell that story as well just so that you know that story.

It was October 2010 and we had just had a couple of days of really bad monsoon storms. Typically, at the end of the storm season we get one of two things happening: A lot of storms out of nowhere or nothing until the season ends at the end of the month. Well, that year we got hit by a storm a night for about a week. We had just gotten hit by a late afternoon storm and the little one's friends were outside playing since the storm had passed. We took the little one outside and we all sat at the park.

At some point, one of the kids found a pigeon sitting right by our house not moving. My husband of course, wanting to help the guy out went over and checked him out. He had a huge mark on his head and possibly a broken wing. Mind you, at the time there was a small animal vet just down the street. The hubby thought over what he should do for a long while and even our neighbors were telling him he was crazy to even think about taking the bird into the house for the night. The one neighbor told us that someone should just put the poor animal out of his misery. My husband didn't want to do that so I went inside and got the dog carrier. The hubby put the little guy in there and obviously he held the little guy for a while to inspect what type of damage he had on him. It appeared that the bird had possibly hit our home.

Anyways, the hubby brought the bird home in the dog carrier and he was kept in the garage that night. The plan was if the bird made it overnight that he/she would get taken down to vet accross the street the following day. At around 5am though I heard the bird singing up a storm. The master bedroom is right above the garage so if you are loud enough in the garage it can be heard from the bedroom. I know that night the hubby got up for a midnight snack and didn't make it back to bed. Its a good thing he didn't becaue if he had made it back to bed he would have heard the happy singing from the garage. Of course, I wasn't thrilled with not being able to sleep that morning and I told the hubby to check on the bird the second he woke up which he did..Sadly, the little guy didn't make it overnight and clearly never got taken to the vet....and thats the story of the pigeon!

In keeping of the theme of revisting old stories..Well, I thought of an old story this morning and figured I'd reshare it. I know I blogged about this back in January of 2008 but well, its time to revisit this story...just because..

It was January of 2008- we had the house for a few years now and at the time everyone in the neighborhood knew who were as in they weren't confusing us for the old couple that used to own this house. The hubby had even gone out a few times to play touch football with the local kids(who have now since all gone off to college and whatnot).

Anyways, at the time we were playing World of Warcraft and we that afternoon had just finished a quest and well, we had issues with the next part of the quest so the hubby called a friend. Mid-conversation one of the kids yelled 'There's a turkey on your wall!'. We have a wall around our backyard and yeah, the hubby just figured that the kids were playing a joke so he yelled back to them something to the extent of 'nice joke but we're in Arizona!'...come to find out there actually WAS a turkey hanging out on the wall of our backyard. Once the hubby saw the turkey he went running outside. Mind you, at the time our little one was still rather..little and I was busy with her and didn't see the turkey. Eventually, my cell phone rings and its my husband saying he's coming to the house and to grab to camera and get the little one since this is something that she has never seen before..Of course, rolling my eyes I grab the camera and the child not knowing what he had in toe.

I go out in the backyard and there's a turkey. None of the local kids knew what to do with said turkey so...my husband being my husband took the guy in..He once took in a pigeon(but thats another story) Anyways, we took the guy in..We let him hang out in the backyard for a bit with the dogs barking at him the entire time and yes, we took some pictures(obviously) then we made the choice to take him upstairs to the hubby's den which at the time no one was using while we figured out what to do. Our HOA has strict rules on not having farm animals so we knew we had to get rid of the guy. Of course, the humane society wasn't open..Whenever we end up with an animal they are never open.

So, once I got the little one tucked into bed I hopped online and at the time Myspace was the thing so I went to my regular forums knowing that certain people did hunt and deal with game..I asked the question and of course, people thought I was trolling knowing I was in Arizona but I wasn't but I did get the answer I was looking for...After hours of calling 411 looking for something and coming up with nothing I finally got a lead of finding a bird preservation thing which the hubby did eventually find and thankfully, a woman was available to come up and pick up the turkey...at 11pm..Nearly midnight..that alone was a big deal. Yes, I do admit it..I did eat a frozen turkey dinner that night for dinner once the little guy finally got to a safe place.

The full on joke here is that the hubby was suppose to send out a laptop the following day and yeah, we were up all night and he couldn't send the laptop out because yeah, we were all tired. Anyways, the friend didn't believe the story since hey, we are in Arizona but after sending him some pictures he laughed and realized we weren't making this up and said 'send it tomorrow' which we did..But hey, who knew you could wild turkey's in your backyard..in Arizona. I never would have thought that could happen but hey, it did..

Okay, there's your storytime for today..