March 9, 2014

  • Why do we hate parents?

    maxandruby2

     

    Why do we as parents hate each other? Does it have something to do with what we watched as we grew up and the media's own input on lack of parenting and bad parenting. As I was sitting down this morning to my morning coffee and my daughter sitting beside me while she watched "Max and Ruby". This spawned a discussion on Facebook of how these two bunnies have no parents present..ever! They have a grandmother who lives down the street but no sign of their parents.  A lot of the movies I watched growing up had lack of parents in them. Disney is known to kill off parents in their movies especially Mother's. In fact, we watched "Frozen" last night which was a good movie but still..the parents forced the girls to live in isolation.

     

    Another movie I loved growing up was "Land before time". My daughter spent most of last year obsessed with those movies. Do you know what? The parents in that movie just kind of let the kids run off and it takes them at least an hour to realize that they had gone and run off..Really? What parent takes that long to notice that their kids aren't present and where they are suppose to be. Again, another example of the media making us parents look like dim wits and yet we wonder why parents spend most of their time attacking each other on everything under the sun. Maybe we're defense because of what we see in media and how we as parents are portrayed to the world. I don't think every parent is that clueless but seriously, we all have to make our own calls with our children and some of those calls won't be popular with everyone..

     

    After the "Land before time" obsession my daughter had she went into wanting to watch "The Lion King" which was one of my favorites growing up. Mufasa is a great Dad and the first part of the movie Simba has a wonderful family until like clockwork like what Disney loves to do one parent is killed and the kid runs off. Again, painting a picture that you as a kid don't need your parents and in order to learn some massive life lesson you have to run away or have a parent be killed.

     

    Is it just considered bad writing to put in parents? Of course, when it comes to Max and Ruby they say that they are alone and solving their own problems to show that kids can solve their own issues..Okay, that's great and all but at least have the parents make an appearance somewhere in there. I know in the "Cat and the hat" TV show on PBS at least the parents say its okay for them to go off with the Cat and explore. Sure, every time they get to leave and I secretly want the parents to say 'No! You can't go. You didn't do your homework yet!' but at least the parents are there to an extent.

     

    Yes, I'm rambling but my thought is that maybe we as parents are constantly at war with each other because the media basically shoves it into our face that parents are indeed fumbling idiots. Sure, we as parents don't know what we're doing ALL the time but I don't think we're all just a bunch of buffoons.